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by sexpositivity94
Thu Mar 16, 2017 5:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking for a Friend (with Benefits)
Replies: 1
Views: 2469

Asking for a Friend (with Benefits)

Hi, First I want to say how much this site has helped me through the years. I've asked questions that have received awesome answers, but just reading the site's articles and answers to other people's questions have been invaluable in my life. I feel secure knowing I have a resource I can fall back o...
by sexpositivity94
Wed Aug 17, 2016 4:20 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy
Replies: 25
Views: 29117

Re: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy

One of my go-to queer movies is "But I'm a Cheerleader". Campy, funny, strange, super-queer, and with a bonus of a happy ending!
by sexpositivity94
Fri Jan 29, 2016 2:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Letting go of hangups from past abuse
Replies: 2
Views: 1929

Re: Letting go of hangups from past abuse

Hi, Virginia. My name is Genie. Thank you for coming here and reaching out. I'm sorry for what you had to go through and what you are still experiencing today. I have to be honest, I don't know what you are going through, as I am not a survivor of trauma myself. I can absolutely empathize with you, ...
by sexpositivity94
Tue Oct 20, 2015 5:57 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: To Deen or not to Deen?
Replies: 2
Views: 2682

To Deen or not to Deen?

Hello Scarleteen! Fast facts: Genie is my name Cis girl 21 College student "Virgin", even though I don't really subscribe to that construct. My question has me super conflicted. I watch porn. I used to watched all free porn, but when I discovered Feminism, I stopped doing that because it j...
by sexpositivity94
Sun Sep 06, 2015 8:03 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Am i normal wanting to get sterelized aged 21?
Replies: 8
Views: 4757

Re: Am i normal wanting to get sterelized aged 21?

Hi Confusedwoman12, You are absolutely not alone! I have never wanted children, and as I get older, the feeling doesn't go away- it gets stronger! I am 21 also, and I have been thinking about sterilization for several years now. I actually made a topic on this message board asking about it- similar ...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Feb 21, 2015 5:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex with an Asexual Person?
Replies: 1
Views: 1938

Sex with an Asexual Person?

Hi, Thanks for all the advice you've given me along the way. As you may know, I'm a 20 year old cis girl in college. I met someone (a cis guy) recently. :D I kinda like him. Okay- just full on like - him, and he says that he likes me too. I wouldn't call what we have a 'relationship' by any stretch ...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Jan 17, 2015 11:10 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Easy Cleanup?
Replies: 2
Views: 1905

Re: Easy Cleanup?

Hi there! I do not have a penis, but some of my guy friends do. I have some ideas about what I would do, but I really can't spew kto the efficacy/practicality of these suggestions. I will just relay the experiences of one guy friend with whom I talked about this subject. He uses a condom. You can yo...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Jan 17, 2015 10:59 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Time to get a girlfriend?
Replies: 2
Views: 1908

Re: Time to get a girlfriend?

Like Sam W says, there really is no perfect time to be in a relationship. There's also no age too old not to have had a significant other. You have to be ready, and there also has to be (at least) one person you want to start a relationship with. Forcing yourself into something because other people ...
by sexpositivity94
Tue Jan 13, 2015 3:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue With Insertion
Replies: 6
Views: 16417

Re: Issue With Insertion

I havent checked this post in a long time, but when I read the first line I was like :lol: So true. As long as what I use is flexible, it goes in at least partially. For me, smaller is better right now. Thanks for all the help and advice. P.S. I got something way better for Christmas- Your book! I'v...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Jan 10, 2015 12:42 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Massaging m breast
Replies: 3
Views: 2527

Re: Massaging m breast

A couple of things: 1) Most importantly- massaging yourself/your breasts and nipples is absolutely not a bad thing. 2) If it gives you pleasure or makes you feel good in any way, keep it up- there's no reason to stop. 3) Unfortunately, it will not be effective in stimulating breast growth. Your boob...
by sexpositivity94
Wed Dec 24, 2014 2:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue With Insertion
Replies: 6
Views: 16417

Re: Issue With Insertion

Thanks everyone! I'll be sure to bring this up. A little update: I bought some "toys" online. They were thinner (less than 1'' wide), and flexible. No problems there. There only seems to be a problem with wider, harder, inflexible things. Maybe a little too much info, but I'd thought I'd g...
by sexpositivity94
Wed Dec 24, 2014 2:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: jerking off
Replies: 3
Views: 2364

Re: jerking off

Hi! 20yr old cis (non-trans) girl here. Yeah, its totally fine. I agree with Sam. What you do alone and in your own head should stay that way. Totally fine as long as it doesn't mix with your personal life. Treat them like you always do. Just want to note: Its NOT fine if the pictures you use were t...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Dec 06, 2014 4:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue With Insertion
Replies: 6
Views: 16417

Re: Issue With Insertion

Thank you so much for your response! I truly appreciate it. You make some good points- I think I will write the issue down and hand it to her, or read it before hand. Also, I was never worried about her telling my mother. I have complete confidence that that would never happen. I guess my main conce...
by sexpositivity94
Fri Dec 05, 2014 8:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue With Insertion
Replies: 6
Views: 16417

Issue With Insertion

Hi! My name's Genie. 20 yrs old Cis, Predominantly Het, Able-Bodied Girl Lives in NY, USA Today, I have some questions about my vagina. These questions require some backstory. I consider myself to have a pretty (maybe even very) active sex life. However, that sex life has not yet included another pe...
by sexpositivity94
Thu Nov 13, 2014 9:56 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Belt Loops and Boundaries
Replies: 3
Views: 2598

Re: Belt Loops and Boundaries

Hey everyone, Just wanted to give you an update. Today, at college I had an interaction similar to the ones I described however, I feel that this was handled in the correct way. I was sitting in class (its a lecture hall with chairs attach a big table that acts like desks. There are many rows each o...
by sexpositivity94
Mon Nov 10, 2014 8:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Lube and masterbation
Replies: 7
Views: 46712

Re: Lube and masterbation

I dont, but if its super thick, you may have to. The one I use is super creamy and soft, so no water necessary.
by sexpositivity94
Sat Nov 08, 2014 7:36 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What's the big whoop about someone saying no to you?
Replies: 5
Views: 5576

Re: What's the big whoop about someone saying no to you?

Keda, YES! I completely agree. Rejection is not a super big issue for me, but usually when I approach others for sexual/romantic purposes (asking out on a date, initiating a kiss, etc.) it is after I have worked through my feelings, and throughly analyzed the situation (maybe over-analyzed...) and w...
by sexpositivity94
Sat Nov 08, 2014 7:22 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guys & Consent
Replies: 6
Views: 6124

Re: Guys & Consent

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by sexpositivity94
Sat Nov 08, 2014 6:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Lube and masterbation
Replies: 7
Views: 46712

Re: Lube and masterbation

I am the owner of a vagina, so I may not have much authority in this conversation, but I've had the same problem (wanting to masturbate without parents finding out). I know the vagina is more sensitive than the penis, but I would stay away from heavily scented lotions- also avoid lotions with specia...
by sexpositivity94
Thu Nov 06, 2014 10:26 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Belt Loops and Boundaries
Replies: 3
Views: 2598

Belt Loops and Boundaries

Hi again, I have kind of a random question having to do with personal boundaries. I know that everybody has their own boundaries involving their personal space and bodies. But what about when someone's boundaries are violated by somebody who did not know the person had these particular boundaries? I...
by sexpositivity94
Tue Oct 14, 2014 9:42 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Thank You
Replies: 2
Views: 3103

Thank You

This message board is mainly for questions from people asking for help. I wanted to start a thread thanking the people at Scarleteen for the work they do. Maybe whoever posts here can state what Scarleteen means to them, and what the site and the people have helped them with in their lives? I'll sta...
by sexpositivity94
Tue Oct 14, 2014 9:01 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Helping a Friend
Replies: 1
Views: 3360

Helping a Friend

Hi again. This question is actually about a friend. I have this friend I met in college about a month and a half ago. We have class twice a week together, have hung out a few times, run in some of the same circles, and text every so often. I would not say we are close friends, but I feel we are head...
by sexpositivity94
Tue Oct 14, 2014 6:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Scars and Nakedness Etiquette
Replies: 4
Views: 2900

Re: Scars and Nakedness Etiquette

Wow, thanks guys! This was the kind of question where, deep down, I already knew the answer, I guess I was just looking for confirmation. I totally get what you guys are saying! I guess I was just looking for the opinions of people who had already lived similar experiences. Great point, Avocado Lime...
by sexpositivity94
Mon Oct 13, 2014 8:14 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Scars and Nakedness Etiquette
Replies: 4
Views: 2900

Scars and Nakedness Etiquette

Hi again, Now that I finally got an account I can ask all of the questions I never got a chance to! (Not too many, promise) Ok, so to recap: Name- Genie 20 years old (College Fresh(wo)man- yay!) Cis/Predominantly Hetero Female Virgin (even though I know its a construct :D ) Have never been in a roma...
by sexpositivity94
Mon Oct 13, 2014 6:44 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Too Early for Sterilization?
Replies: 3
Views: 2756

Re: Too Early for Sterilization?

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response- and so quick too! I totally get and agree with everything you are saying. In response to sterilization stigma (doing it so young) I was thinking (if I encounter resistance from my regular GYN) about going to Planned Parenthood. Do you think that I wi...

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