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by Johanna
Thu Mar 19, 2020 9:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not ready for sex
Replies: 9
Views: 3248

Re: Not ready for sex

Hi MuchShy, I don't think it's weird that you have such a vivid imaginary world. In fact, it's super common to have fantasies about things we do not have in our life but might like to have, or just to imagine different ways that our life could be playing out. And having a rich fantasy life can also ...
by Johanna
Thu Mar 19, 2020 7:41 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 2160

Re: Sexuality

Hi lovelylavender, figuring out sexuality and attraction can be a daunting experience! I'm glad you're feeling comfortable sharing your thoughts here. I don't see any specific questions in your post, but whenever you do have a question, feel free to ask! For now, I'm just going to give you the links...
by Johanna
Wed Mar 18, 2020 8:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control pill fell out of packaging
Replies: 4
Views: 1985

Re: Birth control pill fell out of packaging

Hi Juliaho90, while the pill should be taken around the same time each day to be effective, it does not have to be taken at the exact same time on the dot. You have a few hours buffer each way. So being off by one hour is totally fine! Forgetting that you already took your pill and taking an extra o...
by Johanna
Sun Apr 24, 2016 12:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 4
Views: 2501

Re: Relationship

It sounds like your old relationship is not working out anymore, so it's best to address that honestly to make sure that you are both on the same page. If you know you are not interested in continuing your relationship, it is not fair to your boyfriend to leave him dangling and wait for him to conta...
by Johanna
Mon Mar 07, 2016 8:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I'm 27 and have no sex life or social life
Replies: 19
Views: 17407

Re: I'm 27 and have no sex life or social life

Welcome to Scarleteen! I want to start by referring to the end of your post, where you are wondering whether you should even bother getting caught up. I actually think it might be helpful to reframe that, and not think of yourself as 'catching up' to anything or anyone. Life, dating and social conne...
by Johanna
Mon Mar 07, 2016 8:28 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Body bliss call out!
Replies: 22
Views: 18460

Re: Body bliss call out!

Seconding the love of scars! I've been a little upset about my scars from self-injury fading, as I considered them badges of honors, of a sort - a sign of where I have been and what I have overcome. Now they are only visible in the summer, as they don't tan, but I know where they are and what they m...
by Johanna
Fri Feb 19, 2016 12:04 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Is 3 days or bleeding after virginity loss normal?
Replies: 10
Views: 113512

Re: Is 3 days or bleeding after virginity loss normal?

Let's start by ruling out the possibility that this may simply be your period, or withdrawal bleed: Where are you at in your pill packet? When did you start taking the pill? Has your withdrawal bleed been regular on the pill? When you were having intercourse, was it painful at all? Did you use lube ...
by Johanna
Wed Feb 17, 2016 10:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: The Awkwardness of the First Kiss
Replies: 7
Views: 3987

Re: The Awkwardness of the First Kiss

My first kiss had all the trappings of a great, romantic moment and I remember being very proud of that at the time, but I was much more into the idea of having a first kiss, than the kiss itself. We were away at summer camp, he asked me to go outside with him during an evening event, we kissed stan...
by Johanna
Wed Feb 10, 2016 11:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: virginity
Replies: 5
Views: 2861

Re: virginity

Welcome to Scarleteen, xxbakerxx! Virginity is a really tricky subject, because it means so many things to so many different people - it's not a term that has a set definition. It sounds to me like when you are talking about 'losing your virginity', what you mean is having intercourse. Do I have tha...
by Johanna
Wed Feb 10, 2016 10:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period
Replies: 12
Views: 5061

Re: period

No, manual sex, or any kind of sexual activity, cannot affect your menstrual cycle. How do you track your periods? Are they usually very regular?
by Johanna
Fri Sep 18, 2015 4:32 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can birth control make you skip a period?
Replies: 2
Views: 2010

Re: Can birth control make you skip a period?

Welcome to Scarleteen, blueberrie. One of the most common side effects of starting hormonal birth control is irregular bleeding or missed periods. While starting the pill on the first day of a period may mean that your body will get used to it more quickly, it's not a guarantee. Some irregular bleed...
by Johanna
Tue Sep 08, 2015 10:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: we have this 'thing'
Replies: 3
Views: 2387

Re: we have this 'thing'

Welcome to Scarleteen, imaddicted! Have you talked to your friend about your concerns? It sounds like so far you two have been pretty great about communicating your feelings and wants. Ideally, there is never any 'should' about sex, and everyone always gets to decide that they're not comfortable wit...
by Johanna
Tue Sep 08, 2015 10:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Need help quick.
Replies: 28
Views: 9974

Re: Need help quick.

Have you been to Planned Parenthood yet? As Heather said, they will explain all this to you. I understand that you're in a tough situation and feeling scared, but at this point the best thing you can do is go to PP and talk to them about your next steps in terms of Plan B and getting some STi testing.
by Johanna
Fri Sep 04, 2015 3:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control side effect or...?
Replies: 3
Views: 2312

Re: Birth control side effect or...?

Irregular bleeding and spotting are the most common side effects of starting the pill, so this does not sound a cause for concern. But if you are worried, or have more questions, your prescribing doctor is the person to ask.
by Johanna
Wed Sep 02, 2015 7:25 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: lesbian for now ?
Replies: 3
Views: 2247

Re: lesbian for now ?

You know, we can't ever really count on any one thing that we identify as to always stick around and always be true. We grow and we discover new things about ourselves and we change and that's totally okay, because that is just how it tends to go for most people. The important thing to know is that ...
by Johanna
Fri Aug 21, 2015 3:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: bcp and withdrawal bleeding
Replies: 2
Views: 2176

Re: bcp and withdrawal bleeding

If you are taking the pill as directed, it offers a very high level of protection, including during the withdrawal week. Spotting does not mean that your protection is compromised.
by Johanna
Wed Aug 19, 2015 7:17 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Do I have anything to worry about
Replies: 8
Views: 5515

Re: Do I have anything to worry about

Katj456, if you have a question, please start a post of your own by clicking on the "new topic" button. If you post in someone else's thread, it makes it hard for us to keep track of who is asking and who we are responding to. Thanks!
by Johanna
Wed Aug 19, 2015 3:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Stomach bug and the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 2061

Re: Stomach bug and the pill

To be on the safe side, it is a good idea to back up with condoms until you start your new pack.
by Johanna
Sun Aug 16, 2015 9:57 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feelings making me feel guilty?
Replies: 1
Views: 1679

Re: Feelings making me feel guilty?

Welcome to Scarleteen! It is totally normal and perfectly fine to have fantasies about things you would never want to be part of in real life. Fantasies happen inside our head and nowhere else, and those thoughts can't hurt anyone. There are no types of things that "shouldn't" arouse you -...
by Johanna
Sun Aug 16, 2015 6:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Questions and Update! :)
Replies: 1
Views: 1552

Re: Questions and Update! :)

We definitely appreciate updates, especially when someone has positive things to share! And the fact that you've reached out and found help and are learning to cope with your anxiety is definitely a good thing. I am glad to hear it, and I wish you the best of luck!
by Johanna
Sat Aug 15, 2015 10:42 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Do I have anything to worry about
Replies: 8
Views: 5515

Re: Do I have anything to worry about

Diarrhea may affect the absorption of the pill if it is severe, but in that case, the thing to do is to back up with another method of birth control, such as condoms. And it sounds like that's what you did, so you're good to go! If a condom is used for all genital contact and it does not slip off or...
by Johanna
Wed Aug 12, 2015 7:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?
Replies: 6
Views: 3527

Re: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?

It sounds like you are already doing all the right things! It does take time to move on, and having been with someone for such a long time and for such a formative period of your life does not make it easier. But it is definitely possible, and you will get over this and start to heal. Let me know if...
by Johanna
Wed Aug 12, 2015 6:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?
Replies: 6
Views: 3527

Re: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?

From reading your story it sounds to me like, to a large extent, you are feeling guilty because your ex boyfriend has been working very hard to make you feel guilty. It's true that we all make mistakes. And it is also true that sometimes, no matter what we'd like, we can't forgive them or move on fr...
by Johanna
Wed Aug 12, 2015 6:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?
Replies: 6
Views: 3527

Re: Is this my fault? Should I feel guilty?

Hi Sunsent, welcome to Scarleteen! There is a lot going on in your posts and while I understand that it can be important to just write it all down and get it out, I am not sure what it is that you are looking for right now. Can you maybe let us know what you think you need from us right now? I also ...
by Johanna
Sun Aug 09, 2015 9:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Plan B
Replies: 7
Views: 3057

Re: Plan B

I'd be willing to bet that the hole appeared when you filled the condom with water. That water test really doesn't do any good, as like I said, you'll notice if a condom breaks during sex. All that test is likely to do is bust the condom and make you freak out. So, I'd not be worried about that hole...

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