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by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2019 8:29 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Hey, Hey, it's Chanté, the new curator for Sexuality in Color!
Replies: 0
Views: 93

Hey, Hey, it's Chanté, the new curator for Sexuality in Color!

It's Chanté -- staff at Scarleteen and the new curator for Sexuality in Color -- talking about intersectionality! http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/chant%C3 ... y_in_color
by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2019 7:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I just read a bunch of questionable information on birth control and I need to know if any of it is actually true
Replies: 3
Views: 218

Re: I just read a bunch of questionable information on birth control and I need to know if any of it is actually true

Hi Jon, It's great that you're trying to be so supportive and are listening to her (is that a playful punch on the shoulder that goes along with it, or a mad one?). I think there are ways to bring up your concerns about sex that aren't going to sound horrible. Sex can be a big part of certain relati...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2019 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can i drink my own cum?
Replies: 9
Views: 243

Re: Can i drink my own cum?

Hi Pan, If you're asking if having knee pain will create negative effects when you ejaculate inside a partner, the answer is no. The same answer applies to consuming your own semen. Really, the potential effects of semen are things like STIs, co-creating a pregnancy, or an allergic reaction (some pe...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 12, 2019 8:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Personal Oral Problems
Replies: 5
Views: 116

Re: Personal Oral Problems

Peoples' interest in sex varies widely not only from person to person, but from day to day for a specific person . So it's quite common for one partner to be interested in sex more often than another. Culturally, people assume that men will always have more interest in sex than women, but we know th...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 12, 2019 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Personal Oral Problems
Replies: 5
Views: 116

Re: Personal Oral Problems

Hi MrUnknown, If you're still feeling pleasure from masturbation, or from types of sexual contact besides oral sex, then it's unlikely that there's some physical issue making you unable to feel pleasure from oral sex. If you have a strong, negative memory attached to oral sex, that could lead to anx...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Curious
Replies: 9
Views: 164

Re: Curious

Glad we could help you out!
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 8:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Curious
Replies: 9
Views: 164

Re: Curious

Okay, great! Curiosity and wanting to be more educated about sexual things is something we encourage. We just want to remind users that if getting more information doesn't seem to help with their anxiety around sexual things, that may be a sign that there's something else going on that needs to be a...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 8:47 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?
Replies: 3
Views: 211

Re: Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

If an adult engages in sexual behavior with someone under the legal age of consent, that is considered sexual assault, which is a sexual abuse. Pedophilia, again, is a word that only describes feelings, not actions.
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 8:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Curious
Replies: 9
Views: 164

Re: Curious

No, as far as we know that's not one of the things that increases the pregnancy risks associated with pre-ejaculate. Really, what may be more helpful for you in terms of anxiety is to focus less on hypothetical situations and instead focus on talking with your partner about what safer sex measures y...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 7:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dates
Replies: 3
Views: 156

Re: Dates

Hi ballerina99, How you ask her out depends a lot on how you think she'd respond to certain approaches and what approaches you're most comfortable with. So, if doing it via text feels comfortable to you and you don't think she'd have an issue with it, you could go with that. Too, if you want to ask ...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2019 7:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Curious
Replies: 9
Views: 164

Re: Curious

Hi softuris, Before diving in to your specific questions, I want to give you this article because it may help you identify which sources you can believe and which ones you should be more skeptical of: Legit or Unfit? Finding Safe, Sound Sex Educators & Support Online It's possible for pre-ejacul...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 08, 2019 12:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating w/o hands or toys
Replies: 10
Views: 200

Re: Masturbating w/o hands or toys

Hi Imbluedabadee, I'm glad some of the D.I.Y toys look promising. Can you tell me a little more about what you mean when you say you don't have access to condoms? We may be able to help you figure out away around certain obstacles. I'm not sure what specific recommendations Heather had in mind for r...
by Sam W
Sun Apr 07, 2019 7:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: About blowjob
Replies: 1
Views: 101

Re: About blowjob

Hi Pan, People masturbate and explore pleasure in a variety of ways, and as long as you're not harming yourself or another person you get to experiment with different sensations as you see fit. We can't really tell you what other techniques to try because what feels good during masturbation varies s...
by Sam W
Sun Apr 07, 2019 7:47 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: About my anal health.
Replies: 9
Views: 301

Re: About my anal health.

Hi Pan, If only you use the toy, then you're not going to contract an STI and as long you clean it properly you don't have to worry about other infections. As for lube, depending on the material of the toy some types of lube may be a better choice than others, as well as safer to use on your body. Y...
by Sam W
Sun Apr 07, 2019 7:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I fail at masturbating. It's getting annoying.
Replies: 1
Views: 237

Re: I fail at masturbating. It's getting annoying.

Hi Yel and welcome to Scarleteen! Plenty of people struggle with finding a way of masturbating that feels good to them, or find that as time goes by a way that did feel good now feels a bit boring. If you're curious about trying sex toys, that's absolutely an option you can explore. We can't guarant...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 06, 2019 9:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Blood clots after sex
Replies: 1
Views: 143

Re: Blood clots after sex

Hi Dim,

If the bleeding and cramping don't seem to be like your usual period (if you've only recently started the pill your body and cycle may be going through some adjustments), then you may want to contact your healthcare provider to see if they can help you figure out what's going on.
by Sam W
Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:17 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Did I Screw Up? Perhaps Not?
Replies: 3
Views: 208

Re: Did I Screw Up? Perhaps Not?

Nonsequitur, Sian said in her answer that Plan B is designed for situations where birth control fails, or where it's not used. Since it sounds like neither of those apply to your situation, there's no reason to take Plan B (or be rude to our volunteers). Too, since you are describing this incident a...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Failed Paragard/ Possible Pregnancy
Replies: 5
Views: 411

Re: Failed Paragard/ Possible Pregnancy

I'm glad hear that you'll be able to access a healthcare provider fairly soon, since that's really the only way to get to the bottom of what's going on. Are there other resources or supports we can help you with in the meantime?
by Sam W
Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Lack of comfort
Replies: 21
Views: 1378

Re: Lack of comfort

It sounds like you have a solid plan, and can use the fact that you'll be getting out of your home fairly soon as something to look forward to and keep you going. In the meantime, how are the plans to spend as little time around home as possible going? Have you had a chance to connect with the radio...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 11:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Periods and the birth control ring
Replies: 3
Views: 144

Re: Periods and the birth control ring

Got it, glad to hear you're liking it as a method and that you're planning to use condoms as a back-up. Too, if you currently have a sexual partner, you and they can talk about what sexual activities do and do not set off your anxiety. That way, you're only engaging in sexual things that you're comf...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 11:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Periods and the birth control ring
Replies: 3
Views: 144

Re: Periods and the birth control ring

Hi Tomatochan, It's unlikely that your period would start only a few hours after taking out the ring, since your body needs some time to process and respond to the change. So it's likely that it will start within the next day or so. The other bleeding you've described is one of the possible side eff...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 9:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: depressive girlfriend & a new crush
Replies: 1
Views: 121

Re: depressive girlfriend & a new crush

Hi tomatopotato, It sounds like you care a lot about your friend, and that she trusts you enough to be open with you about what she's going through, all of which is great! One thing to keep in mind is that, while you can support her and offer your thoughts about what's going on, how she chooses to e...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 3488

Re: ?

Since it sounds like arguing, or even communicating, without insulting each other is something you're both struggling with, you'll both want to read this article and work on using the techniques in it: How to Clash With Love: Some Conflict Resolution Basics . Do you not have access to a therapist fo...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 7:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Lack of comfort
Replies: 21
Views: 1378

Re: Lack of comfort

Okay, so it might be helpful to figure out how you're going to mention that topic when you see a therapist. During initial sessions, therapists generally ask why you're seeking treatment, so that's one potential opening. You could include a description of your home life as one of the reasons why you...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 01, 2019 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnancy
Replies: 1
Views: 386

Re: Pregnancy

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

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