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by Ruby S
Sun Feb 07, 2021 11:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Having Feelings for Someone is making me feel Vulnerable
Replies: 7
Views: 3419

Re: Having Feelings for Someone is making me feel Vulnerable

Hey there! Hope it's okay for me to jump in here. It sounds like you're in a painful spot, and that totally makes sense after having some traumatic experiences with crushes and men in the past. I hope you can access some compassion and gentleness for yourself in this situation, and trust that you ar...
by Ruby S
Sun Oct 04, 2020 8:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t I orgasm?
Replies: 5
Views: 4900

Re: Why can’t I orgasm?

Hey chrysanthemum! Hope it's okay that I'm popping in. Thanks for sharing that you do feel a little worry or anxiety about not being able to reach orgasm. It's not unusual for people to feel like any task is harder to achieve when we give weight to it or make it something we NEED to do. This can app...
by Ruby S
Wed Aug 26, 2020 10:02 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 6936

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Hey there! Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in. I want to validate that there's nothing wrong with you for thinking about other people or feeling bummed or frustrated that your partner's sex drive is different from yours. This is definitely a weird, intense time to make big decisions, so I think it's...
by Ruby S
Wed Aug 26, 2020 9:41 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to keep my expectations reasonable about my crushes and love
Replies: 5
Views: 3298

Re: How to keep my expectations reasonable about my crushes and love

Hey Sabine! I relate to some of the anxiety you're having about people leaving you on read, or feeling like expectations are not being met. Like what Mo said, managing expectations can be generally really challenging, but also really important when navigating online relationships. Try to keep in min...
by Ruby S
Wed Aug 26, 2020 9:27 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I feel like sometimes I will never be attractive for a girl
Replies: 4
Views: 3529

Re: I feel like sometimes I will never be attractive for a girl

Hey Sabine! First of all, thanks for being so vulnerable with us here. Body stuff can be so, so hard to work through - which is no fault of your own. We're in a society that's structured in many ways around shame, punishment, and dissatisfaction when it comes to our bodies, and being influenced by t...
by Ruby S
Wed Jul 29, 2020 8:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is there any hope?
Replies: 3
Views: 2321

Re: Is there any hope?

Hi there! Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here, too. It might help to clarify what "friends" means to you and what "dating" means to you, so you can set boundaries around what you want in either relationship. If you feel uncomfortable with the idea that "friends" can...
by Ruby S
Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:31 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?
Replies: 11
Views: 10885

Re: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?

I think this pandemic is triggering a lot of people to realize that the things that they felt kept them safe - a routine, a steady job, paying rent and other bills, trusting the government - don't really keep them safe right now. I think that's part of why tensions feel so high and why everyone's tr...
by Ruby S
Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Tall Girl Problems
Replies: 13
Views: 4847

Re: Tall Girl Problems

Hey, girlplayer34, hope it's okay that I'm jumping in! Just wanted to say that it seems to me that the issue isn't with you or your height, but with the people around you. The only thing that seems different to me about Sam's tall friends and you is that they are around different people who aren't a...
by Ruby S
Wed Jul 08, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?
Replies: 5
Views: 4784

Re: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?

Hi there! Our article about the combined pill, Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) , says "If you don't take it at exactly the same time -- but still take it on the day you're supposed to -- that won't make your pills ineffective: it's just a safer bet to take it around the same time to kee...
by Ruby S
Sun Mar 29, 2020 9:55 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Question about the glans of my penis
Replies: 1
Views: 2516

Re: Question about the glans of my penis

Hi there! Firstly, that sucks and I'm sorry you're sometimes in pain and feel concerned! Secondly, I'm wondering if you have contacted a medical professional about your concerns. It might be more challenging to go into the doctor's office as it would be without a global pandemic, but is there a prim...
by Ruby S
Sun Mar 15, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Safe Sex Practices
Replies: 3
Views: 1955

Re: Safe Sex Practices

Hi, Fairo! Thanks for this question! I'm going to be using a few different articles for this answer: Birth Control Bingo! Condoms Fertility Awareness (FAM) Withdrawal The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method Why don't you start by checking out thos...
by Ruby S
Sun Mar 15, 2020 4:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 4517

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Hi, Bubbles! Glad to hear that you're back and seeking support for some of your anxiety in your friendships. I'm wondering what your therapist has to say about all of this and what advice they're giving you in this trying time. You mentioned that you've made a lot of progress with them, so it might ...
by Ruby S
Sun Mar 01, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Hey, Brianne! Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this post. It sounds like you know what your boundaries are and what you wouldn't want to do with her. That's awesome! I'm glad to hear that you intend on focusing on making friends at camp and that you aren't just going to see her, which is great....
by Ruby S
Sun Feb 23, 2020 5:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after sex even though we're doing everything right
Replies: 7
Views: 3910

Re: Bleeding after sex even though we're doing everything right

Hi, Xocat! You aren't harassing us at all, just trying to get some clarity. I'm so glad that lube and foreplay is helping your pain! That's so good to hear - keep having fun with foreplay, experimenting with different things that you can do. It makes a huge difference. Good on you for going to ask a...
by Ruby S
Sun Feb 16, 2020 4:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why does this happen?
Replies: 11
Views: 3812

Re: Why does this happen?

Hi there, hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this topic! I haven't personally packed before so don't have a lot of wisdom to share on that topic, but I agree with Sian that getting packing underwear could be the best way to go, or I'm interested to see if wearing two pairs of underwear would work...
by Ruby S
Sun Feb 16, 2020 4:44 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
Replies: 21
Views: 6142

Re: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)

Hi, BuddyBoi21 - hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this post! First of all, I'm so glad to hear that meeting with your ex went well and that you both feel like you were able to be authentic and be accountable for your roles in the relationship ending. That's awesome and so relieving. I'm thinkin...
by Ruby S
Sun Jan 19, 2020 5:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How does being in love change?
Replies: 25
Views: 9265

Re: How does being in love change?

Hi, tomatopotato! I'm so glad to hear that you're having some friend crushes that feel good and that you're excited to get to know your friends! And yeah, who knows how those relationships will change in the future - building a really solid comfortable foundation being friends can be a fantastic way...
by Ruby S
Sun Jan 19, 2020 4:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is little to no pleasure normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 3784

Re: Is little to no pleasure normal?

Hi, 90Hello09! Hope it's okay that I'm hopping in - just noticed that you mentioned feeling stressed about not enjoying masturbation and want to note that sometimes that stress associated with masturbation can make it feel like the stakes are even higher, like that every time you try it and it doesn...
by Ruby S
Sun Jan 12, 2020 6:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 12622

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

I think internalizing and hearing that the way you are is sinful, wrong, or perverted over time can definitely be serious! Is there anything you feel like you're learning about self-love or self-compassion through this situation? There are definitely ways to move out of the house that don't involve ...
by Ruby S
Sun Jan 12, 2020 3:01 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 12622

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

Hi Thea! I hope it's okay that I'm hopping in on this thread. Just want to vocalize more support for you - there's nothing wrong with you, and it's amazing that you're able to work through some internalized transphobia enough to recognize what you want and need and even consider vocalizing that onli...
by Ruby S
Sun Jan 12, 2020 2:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...
Replies: 8
Views: 3235

Re: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...

Hi, KittyPink! Hope it's okay that I'm hopping in on this topic. I agree with Sam about rehearsing what you would want to say to this guy. Feeling centered and grounded when you go into a conversation like this is super important, as well as being flexible and understanding that you've had fun so fa...
by Ruby S
Fri Dec 29, 2017 4:07 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?
Replies: 21
Views: 18317

Re: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?

I love this post !!!! :') - Reuniting with my partner tomorrow and his beautiful dogs and opening presents together! - Starting winter quarter at my school - I'm really excited about the classes I'll be taking and the new things I'll be learning. - listening to a new episode of a tarot podcast I rea...
by Ruby S
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: HOW??
Replies: 2
Views: 2158

Re: HOW??

Hi, Breeze! Just wanted to add to what Jacob was saying, which I completely agree with: not only is there nothing wrong with you wanting personal space and speaking your mind, but overthinking and compulsively worrying about "messing up" social interactions could put you in an even tougher...
by Ruby S
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Hooking up
Replies: 4
Views: 2594

Re: Hooking up

Hi, Kunook! Thanks for visiting the boards. I agree with everything Heather is saying, and just wanted to mention that I relate to the feelings of deep guilt around telling someone no, changing my mind or changing plans, making someone unhappy, etc. Something I've been learning is that all ignoring ...
by Ruby S
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:40 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: [18M] Still unable to consciously ejaculate
Replies: 2
Views: 3114

Re: [18M] Still unable to consciously ejaculate

Hi! I agree with what Heather has to say about getting professional help - and I also just want to remind you that you're not falling behind, and you don't need to beat yourself up for having trouble in this department. Like Heather said, you can still definitely pursue meaningful relationships with...

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