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by zeitvogel
Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dear Lovelife WHERE ARE YOU?
Replies: 21
Views: 8094

Re: Dear Lovelife WHERE ARE YOU?

I also have two cents :) I think you might be putting things in the wrong order, when you say that you would date people if you found people you were compatible with. (I'm thinking specifically of your sentence "If I met a person who I was sexually & mentally attracted to them & they fe...
by zeitvogel
Tue Aug 26, 2014 10:50 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Sexting
Replies: 6
Views: 5736

Re: Sexting

I'm actually not sure about the definition of this word, so I have a question. Does sexting always include pictures, or can it be just words?

When I see handwringing in the media it's always about pictures but I'm kinda used to the media getting things wrong :)
by zeitvogel
Fri Aug 22, 2014 4:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Buying book(s)
Replies: 16
Views: 7284

Re: Buying book(s)

One thing you could try is a "test drive". Can you order some really cheap book, and see what happens when it arrives?
by zeitvogel
Tue Aug 19, 2014 11:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: FWB (friends with benefits)
Replies: 5
Views: 4142

Re: FWB (friends with benefits)

Oh, sorry! I read from the "View active topics" page and this time I didn't check which board it was. I'll pay more attention in the future.
by zeitvogel
Tue Aug 19, 2014 12:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: FWB (friends with benefits)
Replies: 5
Views: 4142

Re: FWB (friends with benefits)

To Karyn's excellent answer I would add: 1. It's still supposed to be friends with benefits; it's good to take care of the "friend" part when needed. And friends do care about each other. 2. You can't promise to not have feelings, because that's out of your control. All you can do is promi...
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 14, 2014 3:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: feeling guilty..
Replies: 16
Views: 6716

Re: feeling guilty..

Yeah... the uncertainty of being single and looking is hard. I'm not the best person to give advice on this :) All I can say is that, of the people who came along for me, I met two in hobby-related gatherings, and two in parties that were outside my usual circles. In all cases I wasn't expecting it....
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 14, 2014 11:13 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What is love?
Replies: 6
Views: 6251

Re: What is love?

I think my definition of love (at least whether they love me ) boils down to three things: - your happiness is important to them - they show this in their actions - they know you well enough to know what makes you happy The third one becomes important when you have someone who tells you what should ...
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 14, 2014 11:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Cultural or community ideas about sex where you live
Replies: 6
Views: 4183

Re: Cultural or community ideas about sex where you live

One thing I like about Finland is the sauna culture, even though I don't participate in it much. Most families have a weekly sauna together, some groups of friends do the same, and parties and summer trips often include sauna. In less private events such as office parties etc the sauna is usually ge...
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 14, 2014 10:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: feeling guilty..
Replies: 16
Views: 6716

Re: feeling guilty..

Ok, you said you feel guilty because you're afraid you're focusing on looks and not personality. But honestly, nothing you've said indicates that you're attracted to his personality. You list some traits of his that show there's nothing wrong with him, but I don't hear anything about a spark or how ...
by zeitvogel
Sun Aug 10, 2014 2:07 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Paying for romance with sex?
Replies: 7
Views: 5646

Re: Paying for romance with sex?

One thing I've seen is a less direct exchange, not "sex for romance", but "I'm a girl in a romantic relationship, I want to be a good girlfriend, and part of being a good girlfriend is providing sex". Thus, not a fear of losing someone, but part of the drive to be a good person. ...
by zeitvogel
Fri Aug 08, 2014 7:47 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Addicted? :O
Replies: 15
Views: 7609

Re: Addicted? :O

I've heard from several people that masturbation feels different from partnered sex, and also that orgasms gotten in different ways feel different. So that's not unusual. And it's not just about one being more intense than the other, it might be that one is relaxing while the other is invigorating f...
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 07, 2014 3:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I thought she liked me buut...should I just give up?
Replies: 5
Views: 6013

Re: I thought she liked me buut...should I just give up?

Hi there! I don't have much dating experience, but I do have a lot of experience with maybes, so I thought I'd share what I've learned :) I would recommend asking her out for something specific. "Hey, would you like to go to this thing on that day together?" It doesn't have to be elaborate...
by zeitvogel
Thu Aug 07, 2014 3:05 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Let's Introduce Ourselves!
Replies: 20
Views: 8964

Re: Let's Introduce Ourselves!

I'm not a new user either :) I was here around the turn of the year, then around april I drifted away a bit, and now I'm back. (Yay!) 1. What first brought me here was a link from another site to the "red flags" thread in the abuse & assault forum here. I read that whole thread and was...