Hey, I was wondering If a guy puts his dick in you and then he takes it out before he cums is that still a risk of pregnancy? Cause I'm 17 and have been doing that since I'm 16 and nothing has happened yet!

I've walked out in front of traffic accidentally a few times in my life, and I haven't been hit by a car.

That doesn't mean I should stand in the middle of a highway for days until I get hit by a mack truck. My luck will run out soon enough, and I'll be flattened before I can have a second to regret it. And that's ecxactly the sort of situation you'll probably find yourself in if you keep this up. Withdrawal is not a very effective method of birth control: just ask my parents.

Not only do you risk pregnancy when you have unprotected sex, you also risk disease and infection -- not just for yourself, but for your partner as well, and anyone else the two of you have sexual contact with.

Ultimately, if there are NO other birth control methods available to you, withdrawal is certainly better than nothing. But if you're a teenager in the western world, it's pretty unlikely you can't at least get your hands on some condoms, and again, given that pregnancy isn't the only risk here, I can't encourage you strongly enough to do just that.

Are you having trouble negotiating safer sex and birth control use with your male partners? If you are, then you're going to want to do yourself a favor and work on that. Some of that is simply choosing partners who are coming to the table with some sense of responsibility of their own, as well as earnest investment in and care for you: partners who refuse to be safe are partners you should be refusing to have sex with, full-stop. The other part of that equation is being assertive yourself, steping up to the plate, and just passing over that condom you keep with you when the time comes for intercourse. If you feel too shy or passive to do that, then it's pretty safe to say that there's a big aspect of sex readiness you're missing at the moment, and it's going to be safer and smarter for you to hold off on sex until you've got that down pat.

And if you and your partners are both coming to partnered sex without birth control, without safer sex, without any mature discussion about both, then we absolutely can say that none of you are ready for sex just yet.