I am a small girl and I am tight and it hurts if I try to put anything to big inside me. I have 2 vibrators and a dildo. One of the vibrations goes in with no hassle the other one is a little bit bigger and its not as easy but and I have a dildo but when I try to put the dildo in it hurts like a burning pain. I bought the second vibrator to loosen me up and I hope it's working... but if I took pain killers can that take the pain away during sex?

Our general body size earnestly has very, very little -- and often nothing at all -- to do with the "tightness" or "looseness" of our vaginal openings and vaginas.

I'm not going to go into detail on why here, because this question and answer from the other day goes very in depth as to why, and it's also explained in-depth in this article here.

But the long and the short of it -- or the tight and the loose of it, as it were -- is that the vagina and vaginal opening are never one static size, save the size that is the closed position of both. Instead, the size of our vaginal openings and vaginas change depending on our arousal levels and state of mind, as well as what we are introducing to them or have inside them. Buying a toy with the idea of permanently "loosening" yourself up is a flawed idea: they don't have that power. Sex toys are made with pleasure in mind: if you're enjoying using them for masturbation, fantastic -- and that's about the only way they'll make a difference with vaginal tightness in any long-term way, via you just getting more comfortable with that feeling of something inside you -- but if you're not, there's no reason to use them.

If you're trying to insert something -- especially without lubrication or when you aren't highly lubricated on your own -- when you aren't very aroused, or which is just not comfortable for any number of reasons, then it's...well, not going to be comfortable. If your vibrator and your dildo are made of different materials -- and they likely are, as most doldos are made of jelly or silicone, a more tacky material than say, hard plastic -- the issue may be as simple as your dildo being more porous and requiring more lubrication be used with it.

It should also be noted that you need to pay good mind to your vaginal health with sex toys: are you covering your toys with a condom when you use them? Or are they toys (your vibrator likely isn't) which can be boiled to be santized? If not, and this pain is starting to be persistent with any toys, or in general, then it's a good idea to check in with your doctor or gynecologist to make sure you don't have a bacterial infection from using toys you haven't been cleaning. And prevention is key here: so if you're fine now, think ahead and start covering those toys, and/or boiling the ones you can. Don't buy toys you can't cover or sanitize adequately.

Lastly, using any sort of drugs during sex with someone else isn't a good idea. Not only does that put you in a position where you can't fully consent to sex and your judgment can be imparied, but any drugs which dull sensations during sex won't selectively dull them. In other words, if a painkiller did make sex feel less painful, that'd be because it's dulling both your pain receptors/responses (which are not entirely separate from your pleasure receptors and responses), but they also effect some of the systems of your body which are important to have unmedicated to experience pleasure and reach full arousal so that sex IS pleasurable.

Too, it's pretty important during sex, just like during sports, to be able to feel pain if and when we have it, since pain is our bodies' way of telling us when we're doing something that may not be so smart for the body. If something sexual hurts very badly, you're going to want to stop what you're doing, since that pain could be happening because on injuring yourself. You don't know -- from your pain -- to stop, you may wind up with an injury.

Really, you shouldn't have to be thinking about what drugs to take to decrease sexual pain. See that second article I linked you to above, and this one here: if you're in the right space to be having vaginal sex, with a partner who you're communicating well with, and who is responsive to what you're communicating, you should be experincing far more pleasure than pain, with any sort of sex.