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Penis size, ejaculation, and what happens when you try to learn from porn

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Anonymous asks:

Hi, I'm 14 and I have a few questions that I would like answered. The first one is that my penis is 6 inches long when erect, when is it going to stop growing or has it already stopped? When I peel my foreskin back a little bit, the head is very sensitive so when I'm going to get a blowjob I want to know if its going to be painful or uncomfortable. I started masturbating when I was 13 and when I cum it doesn't shoot out, it kinda flows out. I've seen a few porn videos and when the guy cums it shoots far. When will I be able to do that? For my last question, what kind of condom should I use?

thank you very much

David replies:

Hey Anon,

Ejaculation:
I remember when I first started masturbating, right around your age. For the longest time I only ejaculated a drop or two and, like you, it really oozed out more than squirting. Now it turns out that both of us, you and me, started ejaculating just like pretty much every other young man does. But here's the tricky part: Neither one of us knew that. I didn't know it was perfectly normal because I had no idea what to expect. You didn't know it was perfectly normal because... you were trying to get sex information by watching pornography. Please note that I'm not saying pornography is a good or bad thing, I'm just saying it's a terrible way to learn how to have sex. (It's sort of like trying to learn how to drive by watching adventure movie car chases.)

Age and Erection size
Basically at age 14 your penis has probably not yet finished developing. According to the University of California at Santa Barbara "Sexinfo" site,

The penis grows and changes during puberty. When do you know that the growing has stopped and the penis is at its full length? Guys probably won’t know the ultimate length until as late as age 17, though this age is variable. Most boys have a sense of how the changes in their bodies compare with the changes of other boys their age. The following table may reassure those of you who are in the early teens and are worried about measuring up to the average erect penis size of 6.25 inches. Average erection sizes by age are:

Age Length
11 3.29”
12 4.10”
13 5.34”
14 5.74”
15 6.04”
16 6.18”
17 6.27”
18 6.29”
19 6.25”

Remember: These are just averages! They do not mean that you are abnormal if your measurements are smaller or larger. Every male is a unique person; it is okay if your penis is not the same size as the average! You should understand that the sizes of both the penis and testes vary among individuals.

Foreskin peel-back and sensitivity
I can make a pretty well-informed guess, but I haven't been able to find any solid information about this. The short answer, though, is no -- even though you're uncircumcised, receiving fellatio won't be painful. Here's why I'm confident about my guess. First, while I'm circumcised the glans of my penis is still pretty darn sensitive to friction but as long as a partner is careful fellatio has never hurt. Second, I've never heard of someone who's given fellatio say that he or she had to be more careful with an uncircumcised partner.

But here's the important thing: when you get there don't make your partners guess -- let them know you'd like them to be careful here or there until you've had a enough experience to know what to watch for. (Again, if you or your partner just jumps into it thinking real fellatio is like porn fellatio it *might* turn out a little uncomfortable... for both of you!)

For information on condoms, this is a good place to start.

written 15 Jul 2007 . updated 20 Dec 2012

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