I'm a 18 year old male still a virgin. One day my girlfriend and i were fooling around, and i started fingering her. She said it hurts so i didn't do it any more.. Then a few days later she said that it was hurting down there and maybe there was like a cut, I didn't know what to tell her. Then today she called me and said that there is like a piece of skin covering her opening and that there was a cut like a + on it. What's Wrong? She's scared and I'm worried. Will it heal/Go away?

Evan,

I doubt it's anything serious -- it could just be what remains of her hymen wearing away, or just a small abrasion -- but she should she a healthcare provider just to be sure. I think this is important.

Now, the problem you and she might be facing in the future is because of this little trauma, the muscles around the entrance of her vagina might tense up as a way of protecting her from what she might fear will be more pain. So I encourage the both of you to go really slowly, and to communicate really, really well about what the two of you do between her legs BEFORE you do it.

Believe it or not, this situation will serve both of you well in life if you handle it right--which means it will force you to start talking about sex rather than just doing it. And that will put you miles ahead of most of your friends.

If it helps, I've written a really long chapter on this very subject. I've posted it for free at the following link.

I strongly encourage both you and your girlfriend to read this answer together, and to read the chapter if you like. And once her physical symptoms go away, I would be really cautious about touching her vulva (the part between her legs that you can see, including the lips and tip of her clitoris). Here are just a couple of things the two of you might consider, if she's up for it:

1. Have her take your hand and actually show you what feels good when it's between her legs. You do the same thing with her hand between yours. Learn what feels good--this will take time and practice. (You might find that she can experience a great deal of pleasure without you ever sticking your finger inside her vagina. In other words, try to get rid of the idea that a lot of guys have that their fingers need to behave like a little penis when they are between a woman's legs.

2. If she masturbates and feels safe enough with you, you might start by her doing that while you hold her, or while you masturbate as well. Unfortunately, a lot of couples feel too self-conscious to do that, but I think it might help to get the two of you feeling comfortable with each other again.