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Hi, I'm 16 and my girlfriend is going on 15 in a month. I've wanted to have sex with her for a while, and I've spoke to her about it twice. The last conversation ending up in a fight which was resolved. But she thinks that it's wrong to have sex unless you are prepared to have a kid. I hate kids, so does she. I want to have sex with her, and she says she wants to make me happy, but I kind of want her to feel the same as me about it. What should I do?
Your girlfriend is being VERY sensible, whether you may happen to believe it or not. Women have a LOT at stake when they become sexually active. Women are more prone to infections than men. And yes, women can get pregnant, which is a very taxing process for her body, everybody's nerves and the bank accounts of those involved. Unwanted pregnancy is obviously a concern of hers.
She is right to say that it is not a good idea to have sex until you are prepared to deal with having a baby. Being prepared to have a baby is not the same thing as deliberately making baby every time you have sex (i.e., the idea that sex is only for procreative purposes). She just wants to make sure you both have a plan in place in case something goes wrong.
Here's what you do: