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He ejaculated on my stomach ... Could i be pregnant?

Teenie
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I was wondering about what could happen if the entire time during intercourse, my significant other of 2.5 years was wearing a condom but then as soon as he was about to orgasm, he took it off and ejaculated on to my stomach. This was a COMPLETE surprise to me and it was never planned, it was just something he wanted to try...but now I'm a little worried. I did not get any semen on my fingers but I did check WITH my fingers to make sure his ejaculate didn't get inside me...it did look a good distance away from my vagina though. I was supposed to start my pill package on Sunday but I forgot and ended up taking 2 pills on the following Monday night and I've taken it at the same time ever since...but if I did get semen inside me, (in which I'm sure I didn't get any in me, but I can never be sure!) should I take EC? This just happened this afternoon so I want to be sure everything would be fine...thank you!

For a pregnancy⁠ risk to occur, sperm⁠ must have contact with your vulva⁠ . You say you don't think this happened, so I don't see any pregnancy risk here. Also, missing one pill at the beginning of your cycles does not greatly decrease it's effectivness. As there is no pregnancy risk, emergency contraception⁠ is not required.

That all said, checking with your fingers for ejaculate or pre ejaculate in the vagina⁠ is impossible. You cannot tell his fluids from yours. If he just ejaculated on your stomach and there was no drippage or any transfer (on your hands), I do not see a pregnancy risk here.

Was the fact that your boyfriend ejaculated on your stomach a good surprise or a bad surprise? Have you ever talked about doing this in the past? I ask because these kinds of 'surprises' can often lead to either sexually transmitted infection⁠ or pregnancy risks (not in this case), or leaving one partner⁠ feeling taken advantage of. If this was a surprise to you, he obviously didn't ask if you were okay with it first. It is important for a couple in a healthy, equal sexual⁠ relationship⁠ to disucss these things before hand. There needs to be a discussion about each others needs/wants, whether or not all parties agree, and any risks that may come of it. This may not seem like a big deal to you (as you didn't mention it bothering you in your question), but I would see his doing this without your consent⁠ first as a lack of respect. It would scare me; If he thinks he can do this without your consent first, what else is he going to do without your consent?

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