Hi, I am a 17 year old male (18 in October). I have a lot of questions regarding sex. For starters, I am confused about condoms and sexual intercourse. In your article on this site about condoms, you state that uncircumcised men (i am uncircumcised) when putting on a condom should pull back the foreskin when rolling one on. Could you explain this more to me please? Do you pull it as far back as it will go and fold the condom over the pulled back skin or what!?!?!?! I don't understand. I tried it a little while back and it sorta hurt putting it on... so i didn't fold the skin back and it still hurt. Is there something wrong with me? Also when you have sex, does the foreskin get pulled back when you enter the vagina? Is the vagina so tight that it pushes back your foreskin... this seems like it would hurt me, not sure because i am still a virgin.
The next question I have regards my penis/testicles and its size.I have seen many other guys penis' at school in the change rooms and they are all quite big... bigger than mine! I would like to know if there is anything I can do (such as take certain vitamins or other such things) to make my penis any larger or to make my testicles bigger. Could you please tell me what these vitamins are.
One other thing is that I have hair growing on the base of my penis... why? I don't like it. Can I do something about it?
My final question regards whether I premature ejaculate. When I masturbate, I seem to ejaculate quite quickly!! Is masturbation the same as sex regarding time! When I masturbate i move my hand quite rapidly / fast... I haven't actually timed myself but I last maybe around 1-2 minutes before i reach orgasm and ejaculate. This is with little rests. What should I do? Does this mean when it comes to sex i will ejaculate quickly also?

Hi,

Your question is like one of those Russian nesting dolls, where you think it's just one doll, but you open it up to find another, and another, and another. And what I notice much more than your actual questions is an overwhelming sense of anxiety about sex and about your body. I don't hear much fun, excitement, or anticipation--mostly dread and apprehension. So my first response is to encourage you to slow down, take a deep breath, and chill for a bit.

Guys with foreskins have been using condoms since condoms were first invented, and they've been doing really well with them. Same for having intercourse without condoms--a penis with a foreskin seems to do incredibly well during intercourse, almost as if that's how nature planned it.

As for putting on a condom, here are some things to try:

1. Retract your foreskin so it is behind the head of your penis.

2. Put a few drops of saliva or water-based lube on the tip of your penis or inside the end of the unrolled condom. This will help your penis to slide nicely when the condom is on. (The reason they have you retract your foreskin is so it can slide easily back and forth over the head of your penis as you thrust. The saliva or lube inside the end of the condom will help this to feel even better, although I always wonder why precum won't do the job just as well.)

3. Squeeze the air out of the tip of the condom before you put it against the head of your penis and put it on.

4. Roll the condom down the shaft to the base of your penis.

Now, if the base of your penis is sprouting hair, it's merely nature's prerogative. Some guys have hair half way up the shaft of their penis, others don't; some guys have hair on their backs and shoulders, some guys don't. The one thing that some men do who have hair on the shaft of their penis is to shave it or use a beard trimmer on it, so that it doesn't get caught in the end of the condom and cause pinching.

You didn't mention any problems with your foreskin when you masturbate, so I don't see why there would be any problems with it when you have intercourse. Try a bit of lube or spit on the inside of the condom, and let's see if that doesn't help with the "sorta hurt putting it on" part.

As for penis size, I can't comment on the size of your penis relative to the other guy's penises unless you all had erections, and I don't know too many school changing rooms where guys parade around with full wood. Trouble is, not all of us grow the same amount when we get hard. Some guys just get a little bit bigger when they become erect, others grow a lot.

In spite of what you see in the Enzyte commercials, and in spite of what you read in the backs of magazines and get deluged with on just about every porn site that has ads, there is no safe way to make your penis bigger than nature intended. I know that this isn't going to help if you have a poor body image to begin with, since it is likely you'll just project all of that bad stuff onto your penis, but you'll be light years ahead if you try learning how to give great oral sex and to give great massages. Fretting about what's between your legs is one of the bigger wastes of time we guys can possibly do, but some of us do a lot of it.

And here you haven't even had intercourse yet, but you've already got yourself coming too soon. So why not slow down on the stroking action when you masturbate and let yourself enjoy the sensations more. As for any association between jerking off quickly and coming too soon when you were with a woman--if that were true, most guys would launch by the third thrust.

Wish there were some way I could help you relax a bit more.

Paul
author of "Guide To Getting It On!"

if you are interested in Paul's book:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1885535694/goofyfootpres-20