I just recently allowed my boyfriend to touch me everywhere. Although we did not have sex, I feel really guilty now for enjoying it and doing it before marriage. Am I wrong to allow him to do so?

Here at Scarleteen, we are all fans of making our sexual decisions on our own terms, and we would want nothing less for our readers. We will not tell you how to feel about something nor judge you for the choices you make.

With that said, you feel bad about letting your boyfriend touch your body. This comes from the morality and culture in which you were raised. The world around us shapes who we are. If you really believeit is wrong to engage in sexual acts before marriage, then you are entitled to feel however you feel -- good or bad -- about it.

You have two choices: Either reject your current morals (not exactly easy, and not something I'd personally suggest since personal values are so integral to our identities), or accept that that guilt and act according to your values from now on. For what it's worth, you are allowed to shape your values along the way. If you used to believe one thing, but circumstances, experience or evidence leads you to believe something else, then you are entitled to change your mind.

A lot of people think once they do something sexual (or even not sexual), they can't go back to not doing it. This is not true. You ALWAYS have the right to say no. If you prefer to spare yourself the guilt from here on out, please talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you don't feel right with what you two did before, and that you don't want to do it again until you're really ready. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and not pressure you to do anything you don't want to do.

And if he does pressure you to do stuff you don't want to do, then RUN! RUN AWAY from him