"Someone had told me Scarleteen was the best place on the internet for sexual health info, and I see now that they were completely right. It's the scariest feeling in the world to not know what's going on with your own body, and even worse to feel like you have no one you can talk to about it. I am thanking Jeebus, the Easter Bunny and Hare Krishna that people like you exist."
"Thanks for the legit advice, thanks for the facts and information, thanks for just BEING here. Really. Thank you, thank you, thank you, so much."
"Since discovering Scarleteen I feel so much more in control and less passive about my sexuality. Scarleteen has empowered me to communicate more with my boyfriend about issues I felt too embarrassed to talk about previously and that I thought I had no right too because, hey, everything with him was fine! I've realised now that what I thought previously was the right decision for me maybe wasn't, but I don't feel bad about that, I actually feel happy and positive about my future sexual relationships!"
"I'm a 18 year old female who lives in Chile, a country that has little to no effective sexual health and responsibility policies: the morning after pill has just been banned, abortion is illegal, and frankly people just don't talk openly and frankly about sex. I've learned a lot in your site, and you guys have made it possible for me to make informed decisions about my life and sexuality. You're helping people all over the world: you are, in some unfortunate cases as mine, the only source of unbiased upfront honest and reliable source of information for hundreds of girls that don't have anyone to turn to. For that, you have my most sincere gratitude."
"I'm a mom. Thanks so much for this site. You guys have made it so easy to talk to my daughter about "all this." Thanks thanks thanks thanks THANKS! Oh, and thanks."
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"Just a quick message to congratulate yourselves for a brilliant site and for the service it provides to our future world leaders. I work for the NZ AIDS Foundation as a health promoter in the HIV prevention area. I have not seen a better, more informative, non-judgmental site to date for our youth. You people are worth your weight in gold. Keep up the good work and thanks for another place I can direct our youth to for valid, robust information."
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"When I first came to Scarleteen, I was confused, uninformed, and terrified after contracting an STI. I was 18 years old and had only one sexual partner. I was dizzy with questions, and I couldn't talk to anyone about what I was going through. The intelligent staff at Scarleteen not only shed light on the STI and the treatment available, but lent a caring, informative, and thoughtful hand. Scarleteen is a venue that promotes healthy self-image, a healthy lifestyle, and a healthy sex life. I can think of no other site that could be a better safe haven for teens all over the world. Thank you, Scarleteen, for changing my life, and the lives of many other teens, for the better."
"I felt really stupid since I never had partnered sex and this site just makes me feel so much better. I didn't think a site about sex would make me feel good about not having sex... I've recommending the site to a couple of friends who feel similarly awkward about the intercourse they have or haven't had. It all just makes me feel better about what I like to do and what I don't want to do. Thank you so much."
"I am an ex-nurse, foster parent to a young gay guy, with a daughter facing issues of gender identification - all of which I am fine with. I just found your site a couple of days ago. I cannot express how impressed I am. The accuracy, the no-nonsense approach, the plain English, the respect you show in the way you answer - kudos to you all! I will be using you as a major reference for clients in my counseling work, as you are, without a doubt, the best site I've found."
"I'm a 21 year old female who has been coming to Scarleteen.com for years now anytime I've had a question or concern. Scarleteen offers information that allows young people to understand their options in birth control, sexual intercourse of all types, and the role of their self esteem and personal choices in all sexual issues. Scarleteen has been there to give me unbiased answers that allow me to make my own choices. The beauty of the site is its capacity as a hub of peer commentary, physiological information, sexual health reporting, and fostering of individual opinions and values."
Scarleteen is an independent, grassroots sexuality education and support organization and website. Founded in 1998, Scarleteen.com is visited by around three-quarters of a million diverse people each month worldwide, most between the ages of 15 and 25. It is the highest-ranked website for sex education and sexuality advice online and has held that rank through most of its tenure.
Since 2006 alone, our site has had over one billion hits and nearly 70 million page loads. We have an above-average rate of page reads and amount of time spent at our site: young people spend almost twice as long here as users on Facebook and nine times as long as users on YouTube or MySpace (Nielsen, 2009). We engage in around 5,000 direct conversations with users online per year via our message boards alone. Most users find Scarleteen through search engines or when provided a link or verbal referral from friends, other websites or magazines; parents, guardians and other family members; healthcare providers/clinics or other sexuality/sexual health education programs and resources. Every day, young people and adults who care about them let us know how valuable they find our services.
When Scarleteen was first created, we had to start from scratch. In early 1998, around a year after the first abstinence-only mandates began, there wasn't anything like it we could look to in building our model. Scarleteen was created out of an expressed need: young people had written Scarleteen's founder letters asking for sexuality information and support through a website she maintained about adult women's sexuality, and she had nowhere online she could refer them that provided direct service for young people.
Scarleteen was created and built based on what young people asked for, through existing experience in alternative education, writing, social justice activism, health and sexuality Heather and a few volunteer writers shared, with an understanding of human sexuality as a positive and beneficial part of life. We sourced sound sexuality, relationship and health data and perspectives from reliable, reputable resources online and in print and got feedback, support and help from progressive thinkers working in the field of sexuality. To date, that remains our central approach, but we now benefit from a larger network of sexuality resources and individuals working in sexuality who generously provide feedback and advice, from increased cultural conversation about and support for sex education, and from a larger and more diverse group of young people who share what they want and need with us each day.
Founder Heather Corinna continues to direct and manage Scarleteen with the help of assistant director CJ Turett and several international volunteers, most of whom are or were recently young people themselves. We also benefit from the generously donated skills and talents of guest writers, educators and consultants.
Our educational model and philosophy is and has always been guided by both unschooling and the Montessori method. Our content and approach is original and strongly youth-driven but is also in alignment with current guidelines for comprehensive sexuality education for adolescents such as those suggested by SIECUS (US), UNESCO (International), the National Health Education Standards (US) and Sex and Relationships Education (UK). We also meet the standards suggested in the new American School Health Association's National Sexuality Education Standards: Core Content and Skills, K-12. It is in alignment with the core of most current, quality comprehensive sex education curricula, such as Our Whole Lives, Advocates for Youth's Life Planning Education program, F.L.A.S.H., and is in particular accord with the newly-released It's All One curriculum, developed by the International Sexuality and HIV Curriculum Working Group.
Scarleteen and its accomplishments have been recognized by organizations as SIECUS, UNICEF, Planned Parenthood, The Association of Reproductive Health Professionals, Family Health International, Advocates for Youth, the International Association for Adolescent Health, The Boston Women's Health Collective, The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and many more. Our content has been used or provided in many clinics, outreach programs, by numerous sexuality educators, healthcare providers, counselors and therapists and other youth-serving workers and agencies. Scarleteen is one of the few sexuality resources online that is national or international, that specifically serves young people, and which is interactive: Sex, Etc. and Go Ask Alice are the only other organizations currently actively publishing which fit that bill.
Scarleteen is independent media: we are not affiliated with any other organization, nor do we receive funding or other organizational support from a larger organization or foundation.
We feel sexuality education for young people is best guided by what we consider our core values and aims:
As with previous generations, many young people in their teens and twenties today have already begun or desire to soon begin enacting their sexuality with others, often with little to no accurate and inclusive sexuality and sexual health information. We know that comprehensive sexuality education has been proven to have positive outcomes, whatever choices young people make, including increased condom and contraceptive use, lower rates of unintended pregnancy, and a decrease in sexual debut that occurs earlier than youth may want or be prepared for. We also know the kinds of negative outcomes that are far more likely to occur without that information and support.
Ideally, sexuality education like Scarleteen will be paired with education, information, support and compassionate communication from parents and guardians, and additional accurate sex and health information from school, community services and healthcare providers. While Scarleteen is intended primarily for young adult use, it can be an excellent resource for adults who care for this population, too. Many parents, guardians and educators have used it to inform and initiate discussion with teens about sexuality. Some homeschooling parents have used Scarleteen as curricula for sex education; colleges add our articles to their sexuality syllabi often. Ideally, we love to see Scarleteen as part of a diverse sexuality education that comes from other venues as well, such as through school sex education and discussions with parents or guardians. But while we strongly support and advocate for in-school and at-home comprehensive and inclusive sexuality education, we also recognize that there are many young people without access to one or both.
An increasing number of states and schools have now rejected abstinence-only programs -- programs that are misleading, inaccurate and ineffective -- and some federal funding streams are now reopening for comprehensive sex ed, but as of 2009, around half of all 50 states in the US still provided abstinence-only sex education. Internationally, some nations fare better than others, and areas with the highest rates of sexually transmitted disease, unintended pregnancy, maternal mortality and/or sexual abuse also often lack accurate, comprehensive and/or complete sexuality education. In the United States, around 1.5 million students are homeschooled. In 2007 alone, over 6 million students over the age of 16 in the United States no longer attended (and did not complete) high school. Trans gender and other gendervariant youth, lesbian, gay, bisexual queer and/or questioning youth -- around 5 - 10% of all young people -- are rarely included or addressed in sexuality education, even in comprehensive in-school programs. Even with the best in-school programs young people can and do attend and access, the school environment itself creates limitations in sexuality education for students, teachers and administrators.
Young people at home often don't fare much better. A 1995 survey by the American Social Health Association found that only 11% of teenagers get most of their information about STD prevention from their parents or other family members. A 1996 poll found that 82% of the mothers polled believed their daughters had not been [sexually active], but only 70% of the daughters had not been; 70% of the mothers believed their sons had not been [sexually active], but that was only true for 44% of them. A national survey published in 1997 found that mothers of children over the age of 11 rated themselves “unsatisfactory” at talking with their children on several topics: 40% said they were unsatisfactory at talking about preventing HIV/AIDS; 47% on sexual orientation; and 73% on how to use a condom. ("Do As I Say ... Should We Teach Only Abstinence In Sex Education?" Chris Collins, 1997) Another national survey showed that only around 50% of parents had talked with teens about issues like contraception, STIs and safer sex, sexual readiness and negotiation, and that male teens often go without in-home discussion more often that female teens. Unfortunately, many teens go without discussion of sexuality at home at all, and many who do have talks are often not given accurate information as many parents have not had good or recent sexuality education themselves.
Young adults clearly cannot rely on school alone for comprehensive, accurate sex education, nor can they rely on families alone.
We want the sexual choices young people make to be well-informed choices. We feel belying judgment, affording respect and furnishing teens with the facts and context they feel they need, whether or not they are or intend to be sexually active, supports them in learning to best make and own their own choices and lives. We feel humane, accurate, holistic and interactive education, made as pertinent and appropriate to the wide diversity of young people, greatly aids them in making their best sexual choices. We know that sexual choices made during this time of life can often have a particularly strong impact. Sex education at a time of life when negative outcomes can be particularly hard to manage, and in a time period in which people are often very interested in (and thus best retain) sex and sexuality information is key. But we aim to educate not just for this time of life, but to help provide a sound foundation for a lifetime of sexuality. Whether Scarleteen is a young person's only source of sex education, or whether we play but one part, we want to do what we can to provide young people with the accessible sexuality information, support and discussion they want and need now, and may very well benefit from for a lifetime.
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