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Question:

I am 20 years old and I cannot insert anything into my vagina, not even a tampon. After a month of practice, I have managed to be able to insert a finger about halfway into my vaginal canal. After that I freak out because it's uncomfortable and I pull out very quickly, which hurts a bit.

I know I'm not the only one with this problem because one of my close friends has it too, but I haven't figured out what to do about it. I would really like to be able to have vaginal sex sometime in the future, if not exactly now, or at the very least be able to use tampons! I haven't figured out anything that works.

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Wise Words, Cool Facts & Other Quoteables

About 60% of men and 40% of women reported masturbating in the past year. Nearly 85% of men and 45% of women who were living with a sexual partner reported masturbating in the past year.

— Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994